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Some Thoughts on a New Year

I love fashion, DIYs, beauty, and all that fun stuff.. but I also value making the most out of life when it comes to experiences, people, emotions, and things that really matter.

I’ve never been one to share my thoughts on the internet. I try not to tweet or post things that have to do with emotion. I have found it to be much easier to resolve things with others, and myself, without that. But with the New Year, I decided I would post some of my thoughts on life in general. Maybe, somewhere, someone will take something away from it. And if not, at least I had a relaxing Saturday night putting my thoughts into words while cuddling with my puppy.

So, here are some of my thoughts. Some are about a new year, some are just about living a positive life.

1. It’s not all about resolutions and change. Reflect back on 2013. Who was there for you? Who means to most to you? And most importantly, who deserves to mean the most to you? What experiences made you a better person, and who was a part of them? Hold onto those people.

2. Your resolutions should make you feel good about you. They shouldn’t be goals set for anyone else, or to please anyone else. Those resolutions will fail. Whoever you’re trying to please might not be there for you in a day, a week, or by the end of 2014. To keep resolutions strong, you have to want it.

3. Make a list of all the things you would want to do if you had until December 31st, 2014 to live. Accomplish as many of them as you can. Obviously at the age of 21, it is pretty unlikely you’ll be able to visit 10 different countries. Narrow it down to the things that are possible, and go do them.

4. Now think about those things you want to do, but probably can’t get done in one year. What can you do this year to start toward them? Maybe you want to travel in the future? Start saving. Maybe you wan’t to get into graduate school in a few years? Study now. Make a plan. Start today.

5. Realize the world doesn’t owe you anything. When things seem unfair, and even if they are, that’s the way life is. Being content comes a lot easier when you realize things aren’t always going to go your way, and being truly happy comes a lot easier when you are OK with that.

6. People are mean sometimes. Some people are just having a bad day, and some people have been hardened by other mean people. Two things: don’t become one of those hardened people, and be especially kind to those who are. I sometimes struggle with this, too. I have to constantly remind myself to just be kind. It takes less energy to be kind than be mean, and you’re helping to break that cycle.

7. Spend more time reflecting, and less time criticizing. It’s really easy to critique others, but we rarely take the time to reflect on ourselves. This year, I want to channel all my energy into bettering myself and becoming who I want to be. People are going to live how they choose to live regardless of others’ criticism. So live how you want to, and don’t worry about others.
8.  Make amends with people you haven’t. No, you don’t have to go be best friends. No, you don’t have to have a long heart-to-heart. A simple, “I just wanted to let you know I have moved on from our differences, and I don’t hold hard feelings against you,” will be enough. Why? Because life is short, and you never know what is going to happen.

9. In 2013, I learned you have to make things happen. Some people have good luck, but 99% of good things come from seeking out opportunity, taking on a challenge, getting around the obstacles and just doing it. Opportunities aren’t just going to show up at your doorstep. You have to seek them out, get out of your comfort zone, and take a risk.

10. Work hard, but live a little too. This past semester, I worked myself so much, constantly stressing about my grades and getting things done. It left little to no time for fun. Looking back, I wish I would’ve taken a night off to just enjoy the company of the people in my life that I am fortunate enough to have. This year, I hope to live life more and spend less time worrying. Things have a way of working themselves out.

I’d love to hear how you maintain a positive outlook on life, or how you hope to better yourself this year. Happy 2014 :)

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2 Comments

  • Reply Makayla McAfee January 5, 2014 at 6:48 pm

    Allyssa, I love this so much. Everything was said so perfectly! I’m so lucky to have a friend like you. Love you!

    Kay
    Fashionably Kay

  • Reply Victoria McAfee January 5, 2014 at 9:17 pm

    Very well said Allyssa!

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