Behind the Photos

5 Minute Coffee break is a weekly column meant to inspire you to maintain a positive outlook on life to get you through the week. Check back every Wednesday at 7:00 am for your weekly pick-me-up (caffeine not included).

As many of you know, I am a Shop Hope’s rep. One of my favorite parts of being a rep is the community we have built together. We have a group chat we can all talk together in, exchange ideas, brainstorm new ways to promote and shamelessly send ridiculous selfies…because who doesn’t want to do that?!

A few days ago, we all started talking about cyberbullying. Hope’s commonly encounters rude comments on photos which quickly need to be deleted before the models see them. The conversation quickly morphed into all aspects of bullying. Almost every girl had a story to tell. In a setting like a group chat, I am able to see these girls amazing personalities shine through and get to know them on a certain level. Hearing their stories was eye-opening and moving. It’s amazing how some people dehumanize people on the Internet. They forget there is a person with a story and a life behind a photo, video, or whatever else it may be. 

The worst part of all of this? It’s commonly women tearing apart other women. The ones who understand better than anyone how hard it is to be held to society’s standards are the very ones who make other women feel below them.

I see this daily, no matter what I am doing. I see it on Instagram photos, Facebook posts, Vine posts.. you name it. People become fearless behind a screen, and seem to have no sense of judgement when it comes to words. What takes you ten seconds to type has the power to affect someone for days or even months afterward. So this week, I urge you to use those ten seconds to make someone’s day better. One of my favorite quotes is, and always has been:

“Be kind, for everyone to meet is fighting a hard battle.”
And in this case, the people you don’t meet are, too.

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  • Reply Shannon Murphy April 30, 2014 at 11:27 am

    I love everything about this post. I will never understand how and why someone can feel so tough behind a computer/phone screen. Just because writing on the internet feels impersonal definitely doesn’t mean it isn’t going to be taken personal. There is no reason to ever put someone down.

  • Reply Sylvia Smith April 30, 2014 at 10:14 pm

    What a lovely post lyss. You’ve said everything so perfectly. It’s good to know that there are good people in this social media world we live in x

  • Reply Precious April 30, 2014 at 10:57 pm

    I love this post it is so good! No one should ever put someone down! :)

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