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5-minute Coffee Break: Good Things Take Time


Nothing is more frustrating than working hard for extended periods of time and not seeing the results you want. You can work tirelessly for months toward a goal, only to have all your hard work be worth nothing. I think everyone has experienced this in some point in their life, whether it is a personal, physical, academic or relationship goal.


For the past three years, I’ve worked hard in school. As a complete under-achiever in high school, I actually took pride in my work at Kent State. I took on leadership responsibilities, sought out experiences, strengthened skills in areas outside the classroom, and always looked forward to the next step in becoming a professional. In August of 2013, I decided I really wanted to intern at a specific place (I won’t say where), and that I was going to work for the interview. I started creating content that related to the position, networking with professionals in the field, learned as much as I possibly could in the classroom, and asked for help when I needed. In March 2014, with all the work I had put into even having a chance for an interview, I went for it. I advanced to the second rounds, which were on-site. I missed class for the two-day interview, bought a new suit, studied for hours, woke up at 3 a.m. for a flight out, and had the time of my life on the interview day. To keep this as short as possible, I thought everything went great. I patiently waited all weekend for a call, only to receive a generic e-mail to “undisclosed recipients” on Monday morning with a buffer opening sentence to try and make me feel better about the fact I didn’t get the position. Ouch.

It completely broke my heart. I worked for months for a chance at my dream internship to have it all boil down to a computer-generated e-mail that didn’t even have my name on it. It sucked, to be as real as possible. I didn’t have time to be upset though, and started applying more. I applied for internships every single day for weeks. I went on countless interviews, only have to have another candidate be more qualified. I started to lose faith in my skills, abilities and major. I felt defeated and tired. I just wanted to give up.


Then, the most unexpected thing happened. An interview that I thought went terrible actually ended up being what lead to the most amazing opportunity. I interviewed in a department, but didn’t quite fit their requirements. But things always have a way of working out.. they referred me to a different department, which asked me to interview again. I did, and now I am officially interning at the Federal Reserve Bank of Cleveland this summer. On the last day of my junior year, I was offered the full-time internship. It was truly one of those moments.


Every time I was knocked down, I kept reminding myself that there was a reason for it. That something else would come along, or something would happen that would make me think, “that’s why it didn’t work out every other time.” I wasn’t expecting it to be now. I am so humbled and grateful for all the experiences — the work I put in, the interviews I went on, the (multiple) e-mails of rejection, and the people that believe in me and my skills. All of these things have led me to the opportunity I have now, and I couldn’t be more excited for the future.


This week, if you’re feeling defeated, let me be the one to personally tell you to keep going. Have faith in your skills, hard work, karma and a little bit of good luck. I promise it’ll come your way. View every defeat as an opportunity to grow, change, and become more of the person you want to be. After all, we aren’t defined by the things that happen in our lives, but how we choose to deal with them. Inner beauty shines brighter than any medal or accomplishment. Embrace it, and keep working hard.

14 Comments

  • Reply Megan May 14, 2014 at 12:10 pm

    Amazing post, Allyssa and congrats on your new internship! I completely agree with everything you said. Not every single little thing is going to work out and more importantly. you’re not always going to succeed on your first try. I mean, life would suck if you did, really, because you’d never learn anything nor would you have the chance to explore further and possibly discover something even better. It’s definitely something I’ve learned over the years and I’m so glad you’re realizing it too! Good things are ahead for you, girl!!

    xoxo Megan, Lush to Blush

  • Reply Shane Prather May 14, 2014 at 12:14 pm

    Congrats girl, how exciting for you!!!

  • Reply Crissy K May 14, 2014 at 1:52 pm

    Great post! And congrats to your internship! I’m very happy for you! I’ve gone through some ups and downs lately as well and I agree on what you said about how we should keep going and that it really does come down to having faith in your skills, believing in hard work and having a bit of luck on your side. I do hope you have a great time interning this summer and you get the experience you want out of it.

    ~Crissy
    http://www.whimsicalfawn.com

  • Reply Madeleine Wilson May 14, 2014 at 1:55 pm

    I can relate to this so much. I’m so happy to hear that it all worked out for the best for you and you kept such a positive attitude throughout the experience! I recently got denied from an internship that the guy actually basically told me I had in the bag during the interview without any explanation. It can be utterly heartbreaking. But you have to take that disappointment and anger and channel it into something positive – bettering yourself and just plugging along. Thank you so much for sharing this (: I love your insight and optimism! (BTW, anybody is CRAZY for not hiring you because you’re amazing)
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  • Reply Lindsey Sampson May 14, 2014 at 2:35 pm

    Congratulations!! Things really do work out the way they’re meant to in the end.

  • Reply Allyssa May 14, 2014 at 9:10 pm

    Thank you so much! I wholeheartedly agree. I appreciate it :)

  • Reply Allyssa May 14, 2014 at 9:11 pm

    Madeline – I am so sorry! I had a few interviews that went like that as well. Were you able to find another opportunity? I’m sure there will be a million knocking at your door. Love you <3

  • Reply Allyssa May 14, 2014 at 9:11 pm

    Crissy — thank you! Hope you’re keeping your head high through the ups and downs. Let me know how everything turns out, and thanks for the kind words <3

  • Reply Allyssa May 14, 2014 at 9:11 pm

    Thanks so much pretty!

  • Reply Allyssa May 14, 2014 at 9:12 pm

    Thanks so much, Megan! Life really would be boring without the ups and downs. I’ve grown more in the past year than I ever have before. I’m sure you can relate as well :) Thanks for your kind words <3

  • Reply Chloe Logan May 15, 2014 at 2:52 am

    I applaud you for really putting everything out there. I’m so happy that this summer worked out well for you, and the Federal Reserve? WOW! That’s big, girl! Congratulations, and wishing you only the best!
    xoxo Chloe | Wanderlust in the Midwest

  • Reply Tiffany Khyla May 15, 2014 at 10:50 am

    Congratulations! I know exactly what you mean about being knocked down so many times. Life will hand us a ton of “No’s,” but when we finally get that one “Yes,” we realize that it was worth the wait. This sounds like such an incredible opportunity, and I’m so happy for you! Perfect inspiration for the morning.

  • Reply Erica Ligenza May 15, 2014 at 4:51 pm

    Congrats, Allyssa! That’s so incredible, and so powerful for you. Your words sink in…”keep reminding myself that there was a reason for it. That something else would come along, or something would happen that would make me think, ‘that’s why it didn’t work out every other time.'” I need to take that to heart more often…it’s such an invaluable lesson to be learned.

    lovelovelove,
    Erica
    cominguprosestheblog.com

  • Reply Christine Gole Dalpiaz May 16, 2014 at 8:41 am

    So excited for you!

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